Death by Evaporation

Have you ever heard of such a thing?  I assure you it's a real thing.  Once upon a time when my brother was in high school he had some molly fish.  You know, if you ever have had mollys, that if you have boy and girl mollys they reproduce like guppies. He was very excited at first.  He got the tank all spruced up for them and he was taking care of them and had a special little net for all of the babies. There were many little babies. Eventually he got busy and let the tank run itself.  He even put it in the other room.  It was ok, the fish took care of themselves.  They ate whatever they could find in the tank.  My brother ended up forgetting about them and the water evaporated slowly but surely.  They died of evaporation.

What is my point?  This is like how guys in their 30s deal with women now.  They first respond well to them, but eventually stop contacting them.  They seem excited at first but eventually get busy with other things and just stop contacting.  Other things could be work, other women whatever it doesn't matter. They are letting any potential relationship die by evaporation.  They just forget about it and let it take care of itself by not contacting the other person. It dies of evaporation.

Third in a line of Triplets

I had another dream about triplets.  This one was a little more dreamish and not realistic, but still my third dream on the subject.  This time a friend who actually does have multiples (twins) was in my dream.  In the dream these multiples were triplets combining her first and second pregnancies into one.  She has twin boys and an older girl.  In my dream she had 2 girls and a boy--hence the more dreamish dream.  She had me hold them at the same time to give me practice.  So though this wasn't as realistic and something I could totally see happening, I do find it odd that I keep having dreams like this.

Confession time:  I had the Quits dolls and used to pretend that my barbies had multiple births.  With 5 to choose from sometimes they only had one, other times they had 2, 3, 4, or 5. Now I don't think you realize how cool these dolls were.  They had numbers on their diapers on their bums and thier girl dolls had full on pig tails though they were babies and the boys also had a full head of hair.  They were pretty amazing!

32...well maybe not

There are exactly 2 months until my birthday yet in the past few months people have asked how old I am(you know ones I actually tell how old I am, not my students) and I have said more than once I am 32.  I am NOT 32.  I am still 31. And I don't even realize until after I tell them. I was wondering why my brain is doing this...I think the first half of being 31 was a challenge to me in so many ways.  It was hard personally, professionally etc... I think my brain is thinking its time to move on to something bigger and better.  There are good things in store for me. 32 will be an awesome year!  I am just getting a head start now.

On a side note I don't tell my students how old I am ever.  I do tell them what year I was born on my birthday and let them figure it out.  I know there are only 1-2 weeks of school left after my birthday.  When they ask me how old I am I have always said "old enough" and leave it at that. I had a girl in another class ask how old I was yesterday. I told her, old enough to be her mother...which is true. :)

All American Movies

I was given this movie list today.  Now which of these movies have I watched...sadly not that many.  Looks like I need to watch a few more movies.

 

“Here are 50 movies that one way or another, capture the American spirit.  Heroes tall in the saddle, pioneers of land and air, defenders of freedom, men and women who dared to hitch their wagon to a star—they’re all here.”-All American Patriot’s Almanac, p. 103

Apollo 13--Seen it

The Best Years of Our lives, 1946--Own it and love it!

The Big Country, 1958

The Blind Side-Seen it

 Boys Town, 1938

Cinderella Man-seen it

Coal Miner’s Daughter

Davy Crockett, King of the Wild Frontier, 1955

Driving Miss Daisy

Field of Dreams-seen it

Gettysburg

Giant

The Glenn Miller Story

Glory-seen it

Gone with the Wind-seen it

The Grapes of Wrath

High Noon

Hoosiers-seen it

Independence Day-seen it--and think it's awesome!

It’s a Wonderful Life-One of my favorites

John Adams, 7 part series on HBO-really need to see it!

The Last of the Mohicans

The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance, 1962

Miracle-Seen it and own it!

Miracle on 34^th Street, 1947 version-seen it

The Miracle Worker, 1962-seen it

Mr. Smith Goes to Washington, 1939

The Music Man-I love this musical!

October Sky

Oklahoma-Seen it and also love this musical!

Patton--Good movie!--My grandpa was under him during WWII.

The Pride of the Yankees, 1942

The Princess and the Frog, animated-Love it

The Pursuit of Happyness-Seen it

Red River, 1948

Rock-Seen it

Roots,  part series-Kunta Kinte is a character I will never forget especially since he hosts Reading Rainbow.

Rudy-seen it

Sands of Iwo Jima, 1949

Saving Private Ryan

Seabiscuit-seen it

The Searchers, 1956 NOT animated

Sergeant York, 1941

Shane, 1953-Seen it, better than expected

Stagecoach, 1939

Stand and Deliver-Who didn't watch this in math class?

To Kill a Mockingbird-what a great show!  And a great book!

Tora! Tora! Tora!

Yankee Doodle Dandy, 1942

Triplets

I will admit that I have always wanted to have twins.  Ever since I was little, I thought having twins would be awesome.  Yes as I have gotten older, I have realized how hard it would be.  Incredibly hard, in case you were wondering. In addition to this it might be a possibility.  It runs in my family.  Most recently in the family line, My grandfather had siblings who were twins.  I have several cousins who also have twins.  Also more and more multiple births are happening. That being said, I have never even though of having triplets until recently...

A few months ago, I had a dream about having triplets.  I was married and had just delivered triplets in the hospital.  Two boys and a girl.  They had names Bridget, Marc and Ben.  And yes it was Marc with a c...it was very clear.  Bridget was the biggest baby, but they were all small.  My brother Stephen and his wife Alison came to the hospital to visit.  My brother in being his jovial self said "I guess you win!"  This would be in reference to me having 3 kids and my other siblings only having 2. It was super realistic.

Ok--how does one take a dream like that?  Well I joke about it and such, but in my mind I think of it more as a possibility than before...

Now that's not all.  A few days ago I had another dream about triplets. I was not too far along but pregnant with them.  I had been to the doctor and he discovered there were 3 babies.  I decided I needed to tell my principal, even though I had not told very many people.  I talked to him about how I may need to miss some days and how I go about thinking about people for maternity leave.  I said my sister-in-law had her babies in May and had a student teacher take over as the long term sub when she was done.  I wondered about that possiblity.  And another detail was that these babies were due in May.

Crazy, no?  Two dreams about having triplets.  I just don't know what to say.

The Big 3

So continuing with my theme of dating, since that is a part of my life, sometimes it is bigger, sometimes its smaller.  It is ever present. So YES, I want to get married (just in case you were not clear).  So what are the big 3 you ask? 
First I will tell you how this idea came to be.  Every time, I mean EVERY TIME, I get together with single friends, we talk about dating.  We have after all been dating since we were about 16 and are now in our 30s.  Even if you don't count dating until we were a marriageable age at say 18, it has still been longer than a decade for us. We often talk about how our expectations in our dating lives have changed in our years of dating. When we were 18-early 20s we had high expectations and a longer list.  Now into our 30s our list is much smaller.  Despite what others may think, we are not picky.  We are not choosy.  We still have standards and are not going lower them, but we still want good guys.  Truth is a lot of the good guys are already married.  So to those people telling me that I am choosy--especially since they maybe got married young--like say 18-26 range--you don't know what you are talking about.  I am not asking for much really...

The big 3 (according to one friend, but I also agree with)
1. Has a career type job
2. Does not live with mom and dad
3. Is committed to the Gospel of Jesus Christ

So basically if I can find a man I can communicate with that has these 3 qualities--you are golden.

Boys Suck! But I Want One!

I really don't understand boys...really.  Ok that's not entirely true, I understand boys ie the boys in my 5th class, but not ones that are date worthy or older age appropriate ones or otherwise known as men.  I don't know how to read them, I don't understand what they mean or what their expectations are.

This is what I have to deal with as an over 30 single girl in Mormondom:
There are often few men compared to women.
The ones you can find fit into these categories.
Men often don't have careers
Men often live at home
Men often don't know how to communicate with women
Men often don't care for or try to be a better person
Men often don't care for church

Some men are divorced and have kids--not undoable, but not my first choice.


When you find a good possibility of someone who has a career, seems to have goals, is strong in the gospel, doesn't life in home and someone you could be interested in they often are not clear or give mixed messages.

My conclusions
It means that they are just over 30, Mormon and single and don't know how to be in a relationship.
It means that they are not into you.
It means they are busy.
It means that they may have someone else they are interested in.

It could mean any or all of the above.

If it was 100% clear that they were not into me, then it would be easy to move on, but the problem is the semi-frequent cryptic messages that keep you on that back burner just in case.  I don't like being on the back burner.  There is only so much I can do with few semi frequent messages.  I have done my part and can't do anymore.

The truth is, I still want one.  I want to be married, but in a good marriage.  
 

THE END